STUCK

i feel stuck in a completely impossible situation. i cannot even deal with this bs anymore. and its not fair. my life and my daughters life are at stake....see i have discussed the situation with 'dear husband' and basically the arguement from him is that i am not leaving him with our daughter. if i attempt to do so, he will fight me in court. and my thought is this; with the amount of documentable (not including the undocumented) domestic violence that has occured in this marriage, he would not get custody of mackenzie, and if he did, i would never allow it since the family members that he would be leaving her with while hes at work, i dont trust so...and with my prior history of losing my children and the latest episode with my princess that ive lost forever, i would most definitely never get custody of our daughter we have now, which leaves only one option, the state would put her in a foster home. now i can leave and claim domestic violence and i fear for my life (which in a way i do, but not my daughters) but then my daughter wouldnt have a relationship with her father anymore and i dont care about the problems that i have with him, those are OUR problems as adults and they dont need to include our daughter anymore then they already have...so i feel like im being forced to stay in a relationship thats becoming increasingly dangerous for me, and almost by proxy for her, cause what lessons am i teaching her?!?! and to me, it seems he doesnt care about her cause hes not willing to let me go with her...anyone have any advice? you can comment anonymously...and i really need advice here! PLEASE